Suaviter in Modo
(Latin). An inoffensive manner of doing what is to be done. Suaviter in modo, fortiter in re, doing what is to be done with unflinching firmness, but in the most inoffensive manner possible.
Source: Dictionary of Phrase and Fable, E. Cobham Brewer, 1894
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